…or more accurately, how I fail to manage my own time effectively.
Poly Means Many: there are many aspects of polyamory. Each month, the PMM bloggers will write about their views on one of them. Links to all posts can be found on Poly Means Many. This month’s topic is Time Management.
There are loads of things I learnt when I first became poly. Yet a year and a half on, time management is something which has recently been thrust into the spotlight for me as something I really need to work on. I’m just not very good at it.
In work, I’m known as the unofficial admin manager of my team. I train people on how to be effective managers of their own time – however in my personal life I’m pretty rubbish at it.
I live in my Google calendar almost constantly – so I, at least, always know what I’m doing, who with and where. But my issue lies in how I schedule my time, and more specifically *me* time. I don’t do it, and find myself going days between seeing my own flat, and more recently that’s been a constant source of stress for me. It’s highlighted how much quality time with myself is important for me, and how I struggle if I don’t make time for it.
What I’ve recently figured out, is that my time management issues aren’t exclusively to do with being poly. While giving time to my partners is important to me, it’s also important to spend time with friends and family, I perform burlesque and want to give time to that. And then to top it off, I travel away with work regularly which eats into my time – begrudgingly.
Ultimately, I’ve realised I need to look after my relationship with me as well. Doing that will make sure when I do spend the time with the people important to me, I’m in the best emotional shape I can be. Until I get better at it I’ll keep up with the Google calendar, looking after me as best I can and know that there’s always room for improvement.